Bringing up MiniMoi et MiniLui

While MiniHim was at his swimming lesson this morning I finished the book I was reading, French Children Don’t Throw Food. I bought it for £3.99 in Sainsbury’s a couple of weeks ago while doing the family shop. It looked like pulp fiction but I bought it to get me into the mood for the trip to France thinking it would be some thow-away story about an American living in Paris with all the cliches of the day.


I was pleasantly surprised to discover pretty early on that it’s written by an American journalist – Pamela Druckerman – who was living in Paris with her English husband when they found themselves pregnant. She spends the next 5 years comparing American parenting with French with a lot of research thrown in from French psychologists, doctors and educationists.

Not only did it all make perfect sense, it made me want to turn back time and move to Paris en famille with the kids young enough to benefit from the French way. I’m not just talking about the philosophy and the parenting practice but the fact that state creches and nurseries are heavily subsidised and accessible by all. The people who work there are all working to the same French system as the parents. the kids have four courses of adult food each day,  pureed for the younger ones and the everyone knows where they are.

I would advise anyone expecting a baby to buy a copy of this book and to use it as a bible for your sanity and your children’s. Even if you already have children its worth a read because there are things in it that it’ll never be too late to introduce. I’ve even picked up on a few tips for our trip. As well as ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ French adults expect children of all ages to say ‘hello’ and ‘goodbye’, with confidence, to adults and for their parents to at least point out that they should be saying them. If none of this is done the children are considered ill-bred. Mine have been practising since page 188.

So, like Pamela I am now asking myself several times a day. ‘What would a French mother do?’ I haven’t resorted to Gauloises yet but I may try Sancerre soon 😉

In brief, over the last 2 weeks I have learned:

  • French parents work to provide their kids with a framework – cadre – then everyone knows where they are and what they’re doing. Children are given limits but freedom within those limits
  • French children, even when babies fit into the family routine, rather that the parents’ lives revolving around the child
  •  French parents don’t do parenting – they see it as education
  • French children are never described as ‘good’. Instead they are ‘sage’ – wise and calm
  • French women don’t diet – they just pay attention
  • French children are taught philosophy in school

Today’s track

Today’s recipe

Salmon wrapped in bacon


Serves 2


2 salmon steaks, skin off

4 slices smoked sweetcure bacon

a little olive oil

ground black pepper

2 sprigs of tarragon

Method: Heat the oven to 200C/Gas 6. Trim the fat off the bacon and lay two slices side by side, fitting the pieces together as best as possible. Lie the salmon on top and rub on some oil. Grind some pepper on top and lie the tarragon on top lengthways. Fold the bacon over and place on a baking tray. Repeat with the other salmon steak and bake in the oven for 20 minutes.


  1. Andy Mabbett · March 24, 2013

    Your children, when I visited last year, were polite, charming and a credit to you. And sage.

    • carolynemitchell · March 24, 2013

      They still are most of the time, although school is finding MiniHim difficult to handle when they ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Usually this is some form of sitting in a circle to listen to something so pretty much like me at team meetings 😉 I’m glad you wer impressed with them though – thank you 🙂

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